Things that I have found are very important for the full expression of your being and connection with your whole self.
Sounding:
Don't misuse your fantastic human vocal range and dexterity by containing it within the boring use of language! How many sounds can you make that can't be spelled? Humming and hissing, growling and yelping are all under-utilized and potentially liberating experiences. Groans and moans naturally emanate in moments of heightened emotion, so why not use sounds to help express and relieve emotion? I have sung many made-up songs to myself, had many private barking sessions, and I can tell you that it has given me space and deliverance when I have felt captured and overwhelmed.
Sex:
Good sex brings deep connection through absolute vulnerability. Whether it is with your spouse or a stranger, the opportunity to give and receive complete focused attention is totally unlike any other experience. Sex can not only make new people, it can make existing people new again through recognition, surrender and acceptance. When you share an experience of being completely exposed you cannot hide and honesty is non-optional. Attentive sex makes you a more open person.
Moving:
Getting weird with your body is liberating. Music assists by providing a rhythm to propel the momentum of movement. You are only as limited as you decide you are, so the deeper you want to feel yourself, the further you need to push yourself. Feeling "alive" in your body is like having had pins and needles without knowing it, and suddenly all your nerve endings awaken. Weird dancing is the fastest and most satisfying way that I've found to feel alive and free in my body.
There are so many modalities for healing and connection. These ones are so loose that they give plenty of room for experimentation and individual style.
Sounding:
Don't misuse your fantastic human vocal range and dexterity by containing it within the boring use of language! How many sounds can you make that can't be spelled? Humming and hissing, growling and yelping are all under-utilized and potentially liberating experiences. Groans and moans naturally emanate in moments of heightened emotion, so why not use sounds to help express and relieve emotion? I have sung many made-up songs to myself, had many private barking sessions, and I can tell you that it has given me space and deliverance when I have felt captured and overwhelmed.
Sex:
Good sex brings deep connection through absolute vulnerability. Whether it is with your spouse or a stranger, the opportunity to give and receive complete focused attention is totally unlike any other experience. Sex can not only make new people, it can make existing people new again through recognition, surrender and acceptance. When you share an experience of being completely exposed you cannot hide and honesty is non-optional. Attentive sex makes you a more open person.
Moving:
Getting weird with your body is liberating. Music assists by providing a rhythm to propel the momentum of movement. You are only as limited as you decide you are, so the deeper you want to feel yourself, the further you need to push yourself. Feeling "alive" in your body is like having had pins and needles without knowing it, and suddenly all your nerve endings awaken. Weird dancing is the fastest and most satisfying way that I've found to feel alive and free in my body.
Making things:
Whether it's a scribble or a delicately executed watercolour, visual expression extends your ideas, perspective and attitudes beyond your head and your body. When you can see such aspects of yourself in an artwork you can think about and talk about them more objectively. Creating artifacts naturally invokes self reflection, which is a critical skill for personal growth.There are so many modalities for healing and connection. These ones are so loose that they give plenty of room for experimentation and individual style.
